Faith in Love: Interfaith Marriages
Marriage, All marriages need some ingredients to make them work and have the same essence till the end whether it is an intercaste, interfaith, or normal arranged marriage.
When it comes to interfaith marriage few of the cases are where any of the partners should change the religion and live the whole life following the religion of the partner in the name of love. I had seen many people who convert both men or women for having a good married life with the support of any one of the family and to get acceptance in their society. I wish both partners should accept each other the same way as when they were in love before marriage. Respect each other’s religion, faith and should have a plan ahead. Never compel your partner to change their religion.
In a book named Faith and Beloved, I have read the love story where the girl is from Christianity and the man is from Islam. They married and neither the partners converted to any other religion. They respect each other’s faith in God and they have planned how to bring up their children. If the baby is a girl they will bring up her with traditions and culture followed by her mother and if it is a boy he will follow the culture and traditions followed by the father. Vice Versa can also happen in the life of some people. I loved the way they have planned to bring up their children. For the Couple, a beautiful girl was born and her mother brought up her in the way she was brought up.
I have seen a man who converted to Islam to marry his love. I don’t know whether he was compelled or not because his family and relatives never came to any wedding ceremony and I can find all the people from the side of the bride. This was the first interfaith marriage attended where the bridegroom was converted to another religion.
One more story to say. One of my friends who is following Hinduism is in love with a guy from Christianity. They are in a relationship for more than 4 years. When the talk of marriage came between the lovers it turned into a very serious talk about conversion, he wants her to convert her to Christianity for the sake of getting married with the permission of his parents, else they won’t allow him to marry her. He said she can follow her religion or whatever she wishes but for sure she should be converted for getting married to him but she is really not interested in changing her religion, faith, and her belief which was with her from the day she was born to her parents, but soon she changed her mind half-heartedly to convert to Christianity marry her loved one. The way the boy said seemed like emotional blackmail. I don’t gonna happen in her life. When it comes to marriage the acceptance and willingness to adjust and compromise is necessary but it should be done wholeheartedly. It is not easy to make a relationship work. It is a step by step process like building a house and making it a home.
I have a lot of stories to say that I have watched around, each is different with different circumstances and a different ending. Till now I have spoken about changing religion to marry in interfaith marriages.
The worst ever thing I heard was honor killing. Killing both their child and the in-law by the parents and relatives. These sorts of things are still happening in different parts of our country, modern India. I have read in the newspaper and watched the news on honor killing. Literally, I cried when I saw a NetFlix series paava kadhigal where the 4th episode was such a story where the father kills his 9-month pregnant daughter. she eloped with her lover and married him and was living in the city. Finally, the father found his daughter and visited her, and convinced his in-law, and took her to the native fo baby shower. The day before the baby shower he poisoned the drinking water and gave it to his daughter. If you see you…
[12:31 AM, 1/9/2021] Achu Aswathi: Marriage, All marriages need some ingredients to make them work and have the same essence till the end whether it is an intercaste, interfaith, or normal arranged marriage.
When it comes to interfaith marriage few of the cases are where any of the partners should change the religion and live the whole life following the religion of the partner in the name of love. I had seen many people who convert both men or women for having a good married life with the support of any one of the family and to get acceptance in their society. I wish both partners should accept each other the same way as when they were in love before marriage. Respect each other’s religion, faith and should have a plan ahead. Never compel your partner to change their religion.
In a book named Faith and Beloved, I have read the love story where the girl is from Christianity and the man is from Islam. They married and neither the partners converted to any other religion. They respect each other’s faith in God and they have planned how to bring up their children. If the baby is a girl they will bring up her with traditions and culture followed by her mother and if it is a boy he will follow the culture and traditions followed by the father. Vice Versa can also happen in the life of some people. I loved the way they have planned to bring up their children. For the Couple, a beautiful girl was born and her mother brought up her in the way she was brought up.
Parents are now allowing love marriages but when it comes to interfaith marriages there are a lot of problems to be faced by the bride and the groom. I wish parents should think and make their children’s life a happy one where they lead the life with the person they wish to leave the way they want. I wish everyone should have a broadminded and think of the happiness of their children than their pride and prestige.
Children should always try to make their parents understand and not break their hearts. All parents love their children more than anything else in the world, so try to make them understand and wait a little till their heart melts and understands what your happiness is because they all want us to be safe and secure, live a comfortable life when they are not with us and they think we should not face many problems in the world when they are not with us which make them take decisions without thinking our happiness sometimes. It is all in our hands to make them understand how we feel and how happy we are because they always wish for our well-being. Live the way you wish with the blessing from the loved ones especially from the ones who brought up us with love, care, and all we need.
Love, faith, respect, trust, and loyalty are the most important ingredient for any relationship. Interfaith marriages are love marriages that have faith in love which unites them.
